Watch the video for
Carrie Underwood's song, "Before He Cheats," and then read
Carey Robert's article. He claims that this song is evidence of the acceptance of male-bashing in our culture.
Jessica Valenti from
Feministing has
something to say about his article. What do you think?
13 comments:
I believe that Carrie Underwood's song, " Before he Cheats" isn't misandry as Carey Robert's stated in his article. I believe that she's targeting one specific person in a specific instance.Furthermore, if he wants to take songs to a literal level let's talk rap. We spoke about the misogynistic direction that rap and hip-hop culture has gone; and I think if any one has a right to be upset it's not Carey Roberts it's women who are generalized as " bitches", "hos" and "sluts", among other things, in music and in our society as a whole. I completly agree with Jessica Valenti when she is baffled that Carrie Underwood is the best that the anti-feminists can do to prove that women are out to get them and "male-bashing". Personally, I believe that Carey Roberts should pick up a newspaper and actually know what is going on in the world. Maybe if he realized that in quite a few countries around the world women don't have basic human rights (i.e. women aren't able to go to school,aren't able to speak when they aren't spoken to, and aren't able to lead healthy productive lives).
In short, Mr. Roberts upset me to no end.
This article was definitely interesting. The first thing I need to comment on is that there is no way you can say "Before he cheats" is similar to "Before she aborts". No one is dying when you are cheating. I don't agree that with this one song which will fade out of the radio waves is acceptance of male bashing. In the article it mentioned that "mothers are more likely than fathers to attend church" where is this information coming from? Is Robert's talking about one specific religion? I was bullied in middle school and SHE didn't get the best of me, yes she was annoying and persistent but I didn't go and hide or tattle. I did stand up again and again. I don't think I am being kicked around by ideological bullies they don't sway my thoughts I make my own decisions.
It does seem apparent to me that Mr. Roberts is groping around for misandrist sentiment if he’s finding it on the radio. What really gets me about this song is people’s fixation on infidelity.
But I do think he has reason to be perturbed about The Barna Group’s finding that women are more spiritual than men, which I believe is about as well founded as the theory that pizza can cure cancer. But Mr. Roberts takes it a bit far, using it as evidence of misandry. Right. In my experience, women and men are spiritual equals, and the difference in their church attendance is most likely due to cutural roles and responsibilities, as commenter El Cid pointed out.
I say if you give energy, positive or negative to bogus ideas like these and they will flourish. Good food for thought though.
~Chris R.
first i want to say that I like the song... I think that male bashing in this video is just that. A girl mad she caugth her boyfriend cheating... and for the most part she made it clear that theres NOTHING wrong with getting even on the lighter note but on a more heavier one... her reaction my cause some un wanted attention... i havent ever seen the WHOLE video so i dont know if she gets caught!
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The song by Carrie Underwood reminds me of the song by the Dixie Chicks "Goodbye Earl"...I see no harm into turning a tragedy into humerous entertainment, it's done all the time! As far as rap music goes, it doesn't offend me whatsoever that rappers use the terms "hoe's" and "bitches" when referring to women, simply because I am neither...so why should I care?
actually to tell you the truth, I could care less about manufactured stars such as Carrie Underwood. In 10 years, the world will forget she even ever existed. Let her and the music industry do what they want. I listen to music where woman are strong. I want to see more powerful women in metal, since it is so heavily male-dominated.
I think the Carrie Underwoods song "Before he Cheats" is an example of what women should do if there boyfriend is cheating. For a long time men walked all over women and women did noting about it. Ms. Underwood portrays an example that women should not put up with things anymore. Carey Roberts says that the song is male bashing; i fully disagree. I think that women are now sticking up for thereselves and not letting men do things to them.
I love this song!!I can relate to Underwood about how she feels. Carey Roberts took it kind of far with "Before she aborts" That has nothing with anybody cheating.That comment was a little OD. But I feel like whenever females do something to make males look wrong or stupid in any sort of way, somebody will have something to say. Just think, when Beyonce came out with "Irreplaceable", guys thoguht that was the worse song in the world.But why?? It sucks to hear your girlfriend saying she can find another guy to take your place huh? It's just society!!
Carey Roberts is well out of order!He wrote that piece to get attention and sell more magazines.He reminds me of Chuck Klosterman,they both think they are hip and oh so funny! Not! I love the Carrie Underwood song,it sounds believable in this day and age,a young woman hurt,seeks revenge on her boyfriend's car.Addressing the hatred issue,i think the female gender is usually the ones subjected to horrible and degrading acts in society, the majority of the time from men.
Honestly i love Carrie Underwood! Because she had a relationship that went bad because her boyfriend cheated on her and she decided to write a song about it, doesnt mean she should be targeted by it. I love how this shows that women will get even when they are done wrong. Standing up for yourself and not getting pushed around shows POWER. Women need to know that it is okay to stand up for yourself. I really think that Roberts isnt happy with himself, so that is why he decides to bash Carrie Underwood for a song. Roberts is doing his job, but what he should do is get a new hobby and worry about more important things that are in our society today.
UHHHH! Another anti-feminist out to attack something not even worth the effort of trying to analyze. This song is just a story of a woman who catches her man red handed with some drunken random girl. That's exactly what it is...a story, not a direct attack on men in general. What really got me was when he said, and quote,"...that turns this song into a bitter gender tirade. Just imagine a male star reaching platinum for crooning, Before She Aborts." WHAT!? A womens right to abort a child is completely out of the realm of a pop song, possibly not even written by the singer! I just want to ask him what his favorite rap song is.
Just call car bashing what it is, car bashing. Since when is it called guy bashing? … Since Mr. Roberts doesn’t recognize anger of betrayal. It’s was hatred of the act of cheating, not hatred of guys. I am a country music fan, but I do find this song disturbing. So this is how we are to teach our daughters how to deal with anger? I felt that it only weakened her. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Oh, so now when we see a damaged car, we’ll think it’s funny and assume that person is a cheater? I don’t see humor in turning a tragedy into humorous entertainment. It continues to weaken us. I heard this on the radio the other day; “We are all about looking for that right person, when it’s about us becoming that right person“.
Can someone hum a few bars of the “white trash version of Shania”?
I know that Carrie Underwood's song is considered male bashing but have you in other country songs not heard of all the women bashing. There is some. Rap takes up most of it but why should only the men get to do women bashing? They don't get a lot of hate for doing so. I believe that it should be ok for women to do a little but we do keep it down to a notch that isn't as bad as if you were listening to something else. I mean in the rap world they call women "bitches, hos" There should be a line put across in the music but i don't think it should go with the Carrie Underwood song.
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