This video tries to encourage people to see dolls as appropriate toys for boys. Why do some parents prevent boys from playing with dolls? The video suggests that if boys play with dolls they will be better fathers. Do you agree? Could playing with dolls encourage boys (and men) to value parenting more?
There are deffinetly parents who try to prevent boys from playing with dolls. I know a dad you freaks out when his 10 month old wants to play with the pink carebear at daycare, it's crazy. There is nothing wrong with a boy wanting to play with dolls. It doesn't make them any less of a boy. The video made a good point to say that boy still loved all the sports he played, he just wanted to play with a doll. I think aboy playing with a doll can help him be a father in the future just as much as it does girls. I feel that boys playing with dolls will help boys/men value parenting. Where it stands now, if a boy tries to play with girl toys, like dolls, they are made fun of and those feelings and toughts that those things are bad will carry on into adulthood. If they were allowed to learn that those things are just as good as sports and other "boy" things, they would value those things much more in adulthood.
I think that the reason parents prevent boys from playing with dolls is because maybe they feel it will make thier sons weak in other peoples eyes. Or maybe some parents feel that by allowing their sons to play with dolls will make them gay, i personally know a few parents that are afraid of having gay children. Not that they would love them any less but I think the major thing going on now a days is that everyone is worried about what OTHER PEOPLE think. I agree that it could help in the future with parenting if a boy had the oppertunity to play with dolls when he was younger. They are able to learn about babies easier that way, and grown men arent looked down on now when they have babies but are often made fun of when they dont know what to do with thier child. For some reason things dont come naturally like that to men as they do to women. All you have to do is look back at their childhood girls played with dolls and boys did not maybe that has something to do with it, maybe its time to encourage boys to play with dolls.
Parents have different reasons for discouraging and preventing boys from playing with dolls. They vary from the fear that dolls will somehow cause homosexuality or destroy their masculinity to the social stigma boys may face from both peers and adults. The media also sends out the message that "girl toys" are "icky".
I do believe playing with dolls could help boys be better fathers. I'm not sure where I read this, but I believe it was in "Transforming a Rape Culture" that mentioned boys were interested in learning about taking care of children and role-playing families but were discouraged and ultimately prevented from doing so. Playing with dolls may help develop nurturing skills, which men are portrayed to be incapable of or have inferior abilities in comparison to women.
I don't think that it should matter even if the boy is going to be gay in the future. Someone is who they are for a reason! If the father wants to be a prick and take away a potential parenting school let him. If more mothers and even expecting parents changed maybe the way they see gender differences in children, gender differences may change all in the same. What if that was all it took, was for parents to treat children as little explorers of all sexes and allow them to roam in the other sexes territory? I believe all it takes is for the media or for someone who is the media spotlight to start and influence that "boys" can play with dolls or girlie toys. This may even be able to change the view of society in a way or at least some part of society.
I think that boys can play with dolls just as girls can dress up and play army. I don't think it interfers with how thier going to grow up. if anything it teaches boys how to be more gentle and take care of something meaningful to them. it teaches them a sense of responsiblity which i believe every parent would like to see thier child acting.
I think it's rediculous when parents discourage young boys from playing with dolls. As far as they know, it's just another toy. When I was growing up my brothers and I shared our toys equally, wether it be a Power Ranger or My Little Pony. I believe it's reasonable to keep a boy from wanting his nails painted and carrying a purse once they hit a certain age, but other wise it's very possible they could learn a thing or two about carring for a babydoll. Young girls play with them as if they were their real babies, they take them everywhere, feed them, sing to them, etc. Has anyone ever really seen a boy do this? I think they just want to play with them because the girls are and why shouldn't they be able to?
Parents don’t allow there boys to play with dolls because they are very afraid that they will become a girl or something. It’s like they think of it as some kind of disease that boys can catch and not come out of. My best friend just had a son in August and I see it with her mother and her all the time but its just over a spoon that is the color pink. I told them why does it matter its just a spoon its not going to make him girly or anything and they said that he is a boy and should use boy colors to feed him. I thought that was over the top but that’s not my child so I left it alone. I believe that if boys got the chance to play with dolls that they would definitely be more nurturing when they grew up because they would have cared for something just like a girl had when she was growing up. They would need parents especially the father to show that it is ok to be nurturing and not just angry or good at sports. If boys played with dolls when they were growing up I think they would value parenting more than most men do now. There are only a few that actually stick around and care for there own children and the rest are low life’s.
I love how all of the women here love to cut down parents who won't let their boys play with dolls. There's a country song, sung by a woman, called "Where have all the cowboys gone." I don't know who sings it, but she seems to be yearning for a real man. Today's society projects the "metrosexual" man as the truly ideal man. Come on ladies, do you really want a man with good taste who carries a freakin' purse. Be truthful with yourself. I am the proud father of a little boy who's 3 1/2 years old. He's into Tonka trucks, cars, rocks, and loves his Big Wheel. He also likes to play tackle with the football on the front lawn. I love my buddy more than anything in the world. I will not let him play with a doll. If you want to diagnose me as a chauvinist pig, go right ahead. He sleeps with his L.A. Dodger Teddy Bear every night. I don't care if he still sleeps with that bear when he's 12 years old. Good for him. Just don't play with dolls buddy. I'm going to raise him to be a man. I'm going to teach him to fish. I'm going to teach him that men don't carry purses. If he comes to me when he's 20 years old and says, "Dad I'm gay," I'll love him no matter what. However in the mean time, I am his Dad. I will raise him how I see fit. I will give him every opportunity to grow up to be a man's man. If that doesn't work, so be it. He can be who he wants to be when he grows up and I'll be proud of him whoever he decides to be. In the mean time, NO DOLLS. ANY QUESTIONS LADIES?
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There are deffinetly parents who try to prevent boys from playing with dolls. I know a dad you freaks out when his 10 month old wants to play with the pink carebear at daycare, it's crazy. There is nothing wrong with a boy wanting to play with dolls. It doesn't make them any less of a boy. The video made a good point to say that boy still loved all the sports he played, he just wanted to play with a doll. I think aboy playing with a doll can help him be a father in the future just as much as it does girls. I feel that boys playing with dolls will help boys/men value parenting. Where it stands now, if a boy tries to play with girl toys, like dolls, they are made fun of and those feelings and toughts that those things are bad will carry on into adulthood. If they were allowed to learn that those things are just as good as sports and other "boy" things, they would value those things much more in adulthood.
I think that the reason parents prevent boys from playing with dolls is because maybe they feel it will make thier sons weak in other peoples eyes. Or maybe some parents feel that by allowing their sons to play with dolls will make them gay, i personally know a few parents that are afraid of having gay children. Not that they would love them any less but I think the major thing going on now a days is that everyone is worried about what OTHER PEOPLE think. I agree that it could help in the future with parenting if a boy had the oppertunity to play with dolls when he was younger. They are able to learn about babies easier that way, and grown men arent looked down on now when they have babies but are often made fun of when they dont know what to do with thier child. For some reason things dont come naturally like that to men as they do to women. All you have to do is look back at their childhood girls played with dolls and boys did not maybe that has something to do with it, maybe its time to encourage boys to play with dolls.
Parents have different reasons for discouraging and preventing boys from playing with dolls. They vary from the fear that dolls will somehow cause homosexuality or destroy their masculinity to the social stigma boys may face from both peers and adults. The media also sends out the message that "girl toys" are "icky".
I do believe playing with dolls could help boys be better fathers. I'm not sure where I read this, but I believe it was in "Transforming a Rape Culture" that mentioned boys were interested in learning about taking care of children and role-playing families but were discouraged and ultimately prevented from doing so. Playing with dolls may help develop nurturing skills, which men are portrayed to be incapable of or have inferior abilities in comparison to women.
I don't think that it should matter even if the boy is going to be gay in the future. Someone is who they are for a reason! If the father wants to be a prick and take away a potential parenting school let him. If more mothers and even expecting parents changed maybe the way they see gender differences in children, gender differences may change all in the same. What if that was all it took, was for parents to treat children as little explorers of all sexes and allow them to roam in the other sexes territory? I believe all it takes is for the media or for someone who is the media spotlight to start and influence that "boys" can play with dolls or girlie toys. This may even be able to change the view of society in a way or at least some part of society.
I think that boys can play with dolls just as girls can dress up and play army. I don't think it interfers with how thier going to grow up. if anything it teaches boys how to be more gentle and take care of something meaningful to them. it teaches them a sense of responsiblity which i believe every parent would like to see thier child acting.
I think it's rediculous when parents discourage young boys from playing with dolls. As far as they know, it's just another toy. When I was growing up my brothers and I shared our toys equally, wether it be a Power Ranger or My Little Pony. I believe it's reasonable to keep a boy from wanting his nails painted and carrying a purse once they hit a certain age, but other wise it's very possible they could learn a thing or two about carring for a babydoll. Young girls play with them as if they were their real babies, they take them everywhere, feed them, sing to them, etc. Has anyone ever really seen a boy do this? I think they just want to play with them because the girls are and why shouldn't they be able to?
Parents don’t allow there boys to play with dolls because they are very afraid that they will become a girl or something. It’s like they think of it as some kind of disease that boys can catch and not come out of. My best friend just had a son in August and I see it with her mother and her all the time but its just over a spoon that is the color pink. I told them why does it matter its just a spoon its not going to make him girly or anything and they said that he is a boy and should use boy colors to feed him. I thought that was over the top but that’s not my child so I left it alone.
I believe that if boys got the chance to play with dolls that they would definitely be more nurturing when they grew up because they would have cared for something just like a girl had when she was growing up. They would need parents especially the father to show that it is ok to be nurturing and not just angry or good at sports. If boys played with dolls when they were growing up I think they would value parenting more than most men do now. There are only a few that actually stick around and care for there own children and the rest are low life’s.
I love how all of the women here love to cut down parents who won't let their boys play with dolls. There's a country song, sung by a woman, called "Where have all the cowboys gone." I don't know who sings it, but she seems to be yearning for a real man. Today's society projects the "metrosexual" man as the truly ideal man. Come on ladies, do you really want a man with good taste who carries a freakin' purse. Be truthful with yourself. I am the proud father of a little boy who's 3 1/2 years old. He's into Tonka trucks, cars, rocks, and loves his Big Wheel. He also likes to play tackle with the football on the front lawn. I love my buddy more than anything in the world. I will not let him play with a doll. If you want to diagnose me as a chauvinist pig, go right ahead. He sleeps with his L.A. Dodger Teddy Bear every night. I don't care if he still sleeps with that bear when he's 12 years old. Good for him. Just don't play with dolls buddy. I'm going to raise him to be a man. I'm going to teach him to fish. I'm going to teach him that men don't carry purses. If he comes to me when he's 20 years old and says, "Dad I'm gay," I'll love him no matter what. However in the mean time, I am his Dad. I will raise him how I see fit. I will give him every opportunity to grow up to be a man's man. If that doesn't work, so be it. He can be who he wants to be when he grows up and I'll be proud of him whoever he decides to be. In the mean time, NO DOLLS. ANY QUESTIONS LADIES?
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