Sheryl Sandberg, Google VP, discusses women in business.
Do you agree that women aren't comfortable with being successful? Sandberg points to the socialization of children -- calling girls "bossy" -- in her critique. Does calling a girl "bossy" affect how she thinks about gender and leadership?
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well, even hearing the word bossy just refers to what i believe is being "to in control of the situation" like stop bossing everyone around, it's seen as holding to many cards then what you have basically. Women/girls are just suppose to sit and stay quite and not say a word because thats what we've been doing for generations.. but how is anything going to change if no Woman speaks up first? instead of just going with what seems okay.. and what we're suppose to do?
I believe it is sexy for a woman to be successful. Success can be used as a tool to impower women. The term bossy is used to refer to a person who is attempting to control another person. In this case, one girl is attempting to control another girl. This sugests that the girls have the desire to lead and take charge. The girl who is considered bossy is attempting to control and the girls who are being controlled want to be in control themselves. Therefore, the trem bossy is not a negative term. It is a word used to describe the leadership qualities within girls even at a young age.
I don't think that just by making some one do some work makes a woman "bossy",because how can you stereotype some one by saying bossy when she might want to get some help, or asking someone to do some favor or whatever the case be? And who says that becoming unsuccesful is sexy? If you are still alive in 21 century and having such a obsolete idea then well what to say CONGRATULATIONS losers.
When women are headstrong and know what they want, they are referred to as "bossy" or "bitchy." But if men are headstrong, they are seen as a "go-getter" and a leader. This gives a negative and unfair connotation and double standard for women that is not the same for men. This definetly affects women's views on leadership. This double standard forces women into the background for fear of being "bossy," letting men take the leadership role. With women standing in the background, they let men take the higher positions and promotions. Women need to start standing up for themselves and making their voice be heard. Let's make it be sexy to be successful.
I think it's half and half that some women feel comfortable with being successful and others don't because of being put down or having to be "tough like a man." That can become stressful, especially when a woman goes into a job where a man would most likely be and she has to go home and take care of hundred more things. I believe that if a girl is called bossy it can affect how she thinks and feels about gender and leadership because she may feel that she may be ordering people around too much when in reality she's just doing her job. So the question I'd like to know is how it's ok for a man to do his job but not a woman? Those that are comfortable most likely feel that way because they feel a sense of accomplishment and self worth. Successful is definitely sexy.
I agree that sometimes it can be uncomfortable for a woman who is successful. Specifically in the form of courtship. In relationships, despite how far we have come it is still believed that the male should be the head in everything, being the bread winner is included. This idea is still dominant today, so it would take a really secure male to date a woman who is successful, or makes more than they do or is in a higher position than they are. You have a lot of males who feel threatened by a woman who is more successful.
Personally, i believe it is sexy to be successful.
As far as the "bossy" question, fortunately we live in a society where the young generation likes to re-define words. Specifically kelis' song "bossy" somewhat made being 'bossy' a positive as opposed to a negative. I can honestly remember being a little kid and being labeled as bossy and not liking it. But if someone were to call me bossy today i would look at it in a positive light. Her song made being 'in control' and 'confident' or 'empowered' in your capabilities a "sexy" thing.
From a males point of view, I feel if a women's very successful it can be looked at as extremely "Sexy". It gives her a positive outlook on herself and makes her look more confident. So many stereotypes can be applied to a woman who becomes "powerful". However, it's evident that the same result can apply for men too. Regardless of what sex you are, if you have greater authority over people they will talk about you.
in this world women needs to be sexy in order to be succeed. But i think it needs to be changed, because instead of being sexy they need to be stand up and speak, what they worth for.women has ability to lead which does not count as bossy.
I think she makes a great point by saying that little boys are never called bossy. From a young age girls are taught to be more passive, complient, and humble but it is important to be strong and assertive, that is what success takes and we should start teaching children that women can hold high positions in jobs and that being bossy it what all successful business men do so why is it being frowned upon. Women not depanding more money in an interview for a job than men does not surprise me either. I feel that women do have less confidence for the most part and i'm not sure why that is. Hopefully in the very near future, when this generation of college students hits the work force there will be more gender equality, and men are the ones with power so it's time for women to make a move and do something about the pay gap, and unequal job opportunities because we are the only ones that will fix this problem that is only effecting us.
It seems to me that anywhere you go, someone needs to be in control or as some may say "bossy". I like to think girls tend to be more bossy, or atleast thats what I have seen in my life. I myself am someone bossy just because I like to get things done and I know how. I def. think it's sexy for a women to be successful. Someone once told me when I was about 9, that guys do not want an air head or someone who is acting dumb to be funny or cute. Possibly thats how it is in younger years- but as you get older, I would think guys would like to be with someone who has goals and plans and follows through to success!
I do not personally believe that women are are not comfortable being successful, because there are many successful women in the world and living a comfortable life. Although, society is still conservative and do not want to be controlled by females, some people may try to make them feel uncomfortable. I dont even think calling a girl bossy necessarily focus about her gender and leadership. Its a stereotype and females are seen as boss everywhere. If women really wants to share the height of males and even go beyond that, they should not concentrate in those words and take positive sense of every words. Thats how you go up, Isn't it???
Id rather want a women to be smart then dumber then a pile of bricks. If you are a woman and you are successful, its just a bonus. Unfortunately, we as men value dumb girls that as long as they are pretty. When women start stepping up and demanding things and stoip caring what people think, this world will be a very different place. The reason men are so threatened by a strong weapon is becaseu they will feel less manly. I have always dated really smart girls, and i value that alot. I honostly cant stand when i talk to girls who have no idea what is going on in the real world. So yes, successful and smart is sexy.
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